Family Style

It has been too long. I apologize for my lack of blogging lately. In all honesty life has just gotten busier and busier and blogging was something that fell to the side.

The Faulks lately have begun a new adventure. I’m calling this new venture an adventure because our poor girls are frightened to their very bones by this decision. We as a family have begun eating family style.

Family style dining is where the whole family sits around the table and eats the same thing. When we have vegetables we ALL eat vegetables. When we have meatloaf, we all eat meatloaf. If you know our family, and especially our girls you will know this is an adventure greater than any man has ever taken. Sadly our girls up until a few weeks ago thought that all food came preprocessed and already chewed for you. Yes friends,my girls lived off of the nugget diet.

It is quite a change for us Faulks. Up until now Jenn and I both fixed our own dinners and our girls got whatever frozen preprocessed pseudo meat they desired.

We changed because we did not want to send our girls off into marriage down the road thinking that fish sticks were fine dining.

Our first meal was tough.  Few except for me ate much on their plates. Our mistake was making the first adult meal so adult that it did not appeal to children whatsoever. What we have learned along the way is compromise is the key to family dining. Both Jennifer and I and the girls all sacrifice because eating as a family matters to us. I eat things not quite at my level and our girls eat things slightly above theirs.

One of the great joys of any church is that it is multigenerational. I love that my girls get to watch kids, parents, grandparents and great grandparents worship together. I love that my daughters get to see every generation open up their Bibles whether on their phones, on an iPad or in its traditional form. For me I think this is what family dining looks like at a church. The greatest way my girls will learn to eat the steak of the word of God is by first watching others chew and digest it around them.

That said in any church family style worship is being threatened because most families do not agree on what style food they want and are unwilling to compromise to accommodate the whole of the family. This is not a senior problem, it is not a young adult problem it is a trait shared across every generation in most churches.

I guess from my perspective, for the sake of style many churches are sacrificing one of the greatest gifts God has given them, that we all as a church come to him from multiple generations, multiple ethnicities and worship Him family style.

I thank God that he has given my daughters the gift of seeing a multigenerational body worship, study, and serve. I know for us as a church that it will take sacrifice and humility from every person to keep this wonderful gift. What must we sacrifice, we all must be willing to sacrifice our preferences about style so that we can dine at the Fathers table together.

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